The Day Baby Weaver Came Home Plus 3 Baby Items I Never Knew I Needed

The Day Baby Weaver Came Home Plus 3 Baby Items I Never Knew I Needed

Today I am partnering up with Walmart to share a little more about the first day that baby Weaver came home and also a few baby items that I instantly fell in love with and never even knew I needed!

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Earlier this week I shared some info about Walmart’s new baby registry. If you missed that post you can read it here. When you are a new mama there are so many things people tell you that you need to add to your registry. Like so many. Thankfully Walmart’s new baby registry helps you by populating the top things mom’s need for their new babies and then you can add and delete from there. And as you grow into your new role of being a mother, you will learn what works for you and what doesn’t. Today I am sharing 3 baby items that were must haves for me as a new mama!

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The First Day That Baby Weaver Came Home

If you have been following along for some time now, you know it was a few months until we got our first call from our adoption agency. You also may remember we got 2 phone calls, 2 Monday’s in a row telling us that we had a possible placement. Just minutes after both of those calls we received a second call letting us know that those children were actually placed with another family.

Heartbreaking? Yes. But looking back, it was all part of the preparation plan and I am not sure there would have been any baby more perfectly matched for us than baby Weaver.

It was Monday, November 6th. It was my first day back in the office after Hurricane Harvey. Our office building had flooded and it took months for them to rebuild the lower floors that got damaged. As I was getting ready that morning I joked to Brandon “today is the day”. I literally had no idea but I did know that both Monday’s before November 6th we had received a phone call from our adoption agency.

I went to work, caught up with everyone I hadn’t seen for months. Had my normal Monday morning meetings, went to the gym, ate lunch at my desk, all the normal Monday things.

At around 1:30pm my husband called and said “he’s 7 months old, half Asian, half African American”. “If we say yes they are going to bring him over around 6 tonight”. I am laughing thinking about this moment because my husband was so sweet acting like he was asking me what I thought but really had already told the agency yes. I mean duh, I was going to say yes LOL.

My emotions were all over the place!

I screamed with excitement and then frantically started asking my husband all the things. Of course, he didn’t have many of the answers. If you are familiar with the adoption process than you know they don’t give you a lot of information on the first call. Literally all we knew was just what my husband said when I first picked up the phone, “he’s 7 months old, half Asian, half African American”.

As soon as we hung up the phone, I ran to everyone’s desk at work that had been awaiting this moment as much as we were! There were tears of happiness and excitement. My boss came out of his office to see what all the noise was about and I told him the news. Right after he congratulated me he asked what I was still doing in the office. LOL.

I packed up and as I sped home I called my brothers, my sisters and my closest friends. As I pulled into our driveway I quickly realized we literally had NOTHING and I mean NOTHING for our new baby who was just hours away from arriving.

From the beginning of the adoption process, we told our agency we were open to the ages from newborn to 2 years old. Since we had no idea what age child we would be placed with, we didn’t buy anything. I immediately text my girlfriends “omg heading to the store tell me what I need for a 7 month old”. Let me tell you, there were a lot of things being text back that day.

We had not done a registry at that point, just prayers. When our prayers were answered we were definitely ready emotionally but our love wasn’t going to magically make diapers, a crib and a car seat appear LOL so we headed to the store. Still crying, still excited :).

We were talking to one of the employees about a bassinet and a swing. He asked “how much does your baby weight” and me and Brandon looked at each other and laughed…we literally had no idea. “Ummm, he’s a boy and he’s 7 months old”. LOL, that’s all I knew at that point.

Thankfully the employee was super helpful and got us in and out of the store quickly. We headed home and set up everything as quickly as we could.

Around 6pm that night, the door bell rang. Brandon and I just looked at each other. Literally no words but I know what we were both thinking…”he’s here”.

We opened the door and the CPS worker had her hands full with paperwork, a bag and our baby. OUR baby ya’ll.

Within seconds she handed him to me and introduced us. I think baby Weaver and I just stared at each other the whole time Brandon was talking to the CPS worker and signing paper work. The case worker was only there for about 10 minutes and left.

There we were with our baby boy after a whirlwind of a day. O…M.GGGeeee…it was real.

I face timed my Mom and Dad. I hadn’t called them earlier that day because I wanted the moment to be just like this….as soon as my Mom answered the face time call, the screen popped up and it was just on baby Weaver’s face. She asked “is that our baby?” and the rest was history!!

Ahhhh, what a day, what a story and most of all what a blessing!

Since that day, we have been so fortunate to be surrounded by such great friends and family that threw us multiple baby showers. All of my experienced mom friends gifted us things I never knew I needed.

3 Baby Items I Never Knew I Needed

  1. Boudreaux’s Butt Paste – this stuff is literally magic! Any sign of a diaper rash and I put a tiny bit on baby Weaver and it has disappeared the same day!
  2. Nose Friday Snot Sucker – Sounds gross and looks gross too, lol, but really this thing works so great! Way better than the old school thingy that our parents had to use on us!
  3. Cool Mist Humidier – Baby Weaver had major congestion the first few weeks. His pediatrician gave us some cough syrup to help but after a week or so I felt bad just giving him medicine everyday when it didn’t seem like it was helping all that much. I kept reading about how a cool mist humidifier like this one could help ease coughing and congestion. After about a day or two we could already tell it was helping! The cool mist option is a great one because unlike the steam humidifier, there is no chance of a slight burn or anything if your child gets too close to it.

Obviously things like diapers, lavender bath soap, a good stroller were definitely must haves in my book as a new mom but the 3 items above are just random items that I had no idea I needed but now don’t know how I can live without!

In case any of you mama’s are still wondering what items to add to your baby registry, I am linking some other favorites of mine below!

I hope this list is helpful and I hope you enjoyed hearing a little more about our first day with baby Weaver!

Thank you Walmart for sponsoring this post.

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Polka Dot Romper + Life Update

Hey loves! It’s so crazy because I feel like January was moving so slowly and then bam! here we are in the month of April! We have had a lot of things happening over here and although I feel like I chat with you guys daily over social media I haven’t gotten to share many life updates with you in a while so I figured I’d take some time to share with you all today!

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Mommy and Me Tees + Adoption Update

Hi friends! This mommy and me t-shirt set has been one of the top selling items from my Instagram this past week so I wanted to share here and also give you a quick adoption update!

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Our full outfit details can be found here and I also found a ton of other cute mommy and me sets that I will link below. Ummm, we need all of them! 🙂

So many of you have been so sweet and continuously checking in on us so I wanted to be sure to give you all an update on our expected adoption day as I know we are all excited for it! So long story short, 2 months ago we had the court hearing where they terminated rights of baby Weaver’s birth parents. Although, I hate the way that statement sounds it is actually the outcome we were all praying for. For the 12 months prior to that date we had some scares and there was always a possibility that a blood relative was going to be able to gain custody of our sweet boy. Of course, if we felt that was the safest, most loving environment for him than that’s what we would have wanted but unfortunately that wasn’t the case. From day one we knew he was our son and had faith that God (and the state of Texas 🙂 ) would make it final in no time. So you can imagine our overwhelming tears of joy when the judge said “rights of xxx, xxx, and xxx are terminated. I order that the child not be removed from his current placement.” I was crying, Brandon was squeezing my hand so tight I knew he was crying inside. I started saying thank you and hugging everyone that was standing in front of the judge with us. I’m pretty sure I even hugged the bailiff and an attorney who wasn’t even a part of our case LOL.  

Aside from the official adoption day, that was the day we had been looking forward to for 12 months. We had hoped it would come sooner but we are just so thankful it came. 

So what happens now? The next step is paperwork and once all of the paperwork is processed the judge will give us a court date which will be our official adoption day. OMG, I tear up just thinking about it. Although, we had hoped it would before the end of the year, our current judge did not get re-elected so our case is getting pushed to 2019. So with that and some other circumstances we are looking at an official adoption day at the end of March or beginning of April. So bummed you won’t be able to see our sweet boys face until then but I promise I am going to spam you all with all of his life’s pictures once that time comes! 🙂

Thank you all for your sweet prayers and messages. If you are new around here I have part of our adoption story here and here but you can always feel free to email me with any questions, info@roselynweaver.com. 

xo, Roselyn

Instagram vs. Reality

Happy Monday loves! I am so sorry I have been slacking on my blog posts lately. Life has been extremely busy. I’m like screaming inside but keeping all smiles on the outside 🙂 which is exactly what inspired me to get this post up today!

As a blogger I post things on social media daily, it’s part of my job. And as part of my brand, I like to keep things positive. That is why when you go to my social media pages you will see 99% of the things I post are all the “happy” things in life. I love sharing positive quotes, pictures and captions to make you smile and most days I am smiling on the outside and inside. But what you don’t always see are life’s not so happy and sometimes even terrifying moments.

From the outside looking in, I know it may look like a blogger is “living the life” but in reality most of us are just living our lives. And that means all the good, bad and the ugly that comes with it. Instagram is just a highlight reel of someone’s life. Instagram is a platform to help us share joy, outfits, recipes, etc. with each other. It doesn’t always show the whole truth.

I’ve seen a few of the bloggers I follow share Instagram vs. Reality posts where they show the hard work and struggle that actually goes into making that one photo perfect. One of my personal favorite Instagram vs. Reality posts are when bloggers share bloopers from their shoots LOL. But today, I’ve decided to share something a little different because personally, my family and I have gone through some scary moments in the past year and although I share bits and pieces about that every now and then I just wanted to give you all a good example of what social media can portray vs. what may really be going on behind the scenes.

Instagram vs. Reality Example One

What do you see? Probably this pretty pink Free People sweater that was trending like crazy last Fall!

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What you don’t see: We got a phone call that morning for a Foster to Adopt placement. It was for a baby boy who was 2 months old and had been left at a fire station. They called me right before I walked into a meeting. I immediately said yes, called Brandon and sat down in my meeting. It was only like 5 minutes and I was already so invested in this baby. 10 minutes into my meeting Brandon called and I answered because I thought we was going to tell me details on pick up but he was actually calling me to tell me that the baby had been placed with another family.

Our agency told us that situations like this could happen but nothing prepares you for it. It took EVERYTHING in me not to breakdown crying in that meeting.

Instagram vs. Reality Example Two- literally only one week later

What do you see? Maybe a super fun travel pic and a happy care bears tee? You possibly read the first sentence of my caption talking about how it was my birthday.

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What you don’t see: We got a second phone call for an adoption placement this day. This time they called Brandon. We were in Colorado for my birthday, I was relaxing at the hotel because Brandon went to go visit a customer that afternoon. He called me and said “the agency called. There are 2 little girls, sisters, under 2 that needed to be placed”. We told the agency we could hop on the next flight home and they said as long as we could get there by 6pm then we were good to go. I never packed up a hotel room so fast in my life! Brandon met me in the lobby and we didn’t even check out we were rushing out of there so fast! Brandon was flying to the airport as I was looking up flights back to Houston. There was literally one leaving in 30 minutes so we decided that I would rush to get on that one and Brandon would take the next one so he could check in our bags. We pulled up to the airport and Brandon’s phone rings…another family from a different agency was available to pick the girls up asap so…yup you guessed it. We didn’t get placed that day. It was definitely another sad moment but maybe the week prior had prepared me a little bit because I didn’t cry that time. And then when we turned back around to go back to the hotel Brandon and I laughed because we realized we never checked out and said to eachother “well I guess that worked out” lol

Instagram vs. Reality Example Three

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Ahhhh!!! We were finally placed with our sweet baby boy. He had been in daycare for one whole week when I took this photo. And with daycare came a full on stomach virus. He got it. I got. I actually had blog campaign due the very next week so I couldn’t cancel this photoshoot with Yash.

So what you don’t see? I had to pull over twice on the way to this photoshoot so I could throw up. So gross I know. But again, Instagram vs. Reality my friends.

Instagram vs Reality Example Four

What do you see? A sweet photo of us on our anniversary trip with our sweet baby Weaver. Maybe you think “yay, they finally got placed with their son!”

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What you don’t see: 4 days prior during one of our casual, routine CPS visits they notify us that a blood relative wanted custody and verbatim she said “once she passes the background check it could happen quickly”. Just like that. So matter of fact. “Once she passes”,  basically our whole lives would have been turned upside down.

I looked back to my Instagram to see if one picture that week showed an emotion of sadness that would have even given the hint that we had a rough week that week. Nope, not one photo. That’s the “beauty” of social media.

Instagram vs Reality Example Five

What do you see? A smiling gal at a popular Houston restaurant? I was actually having lunch with my team that day.

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What you don’t see: Actually I myself didn’t even see it coming. Right after lunch that day Brandon called me on my way back to the office. He had gone to court for the both of us that day. Since the court hearings were basically a day long event we took turns on who would attend.

Anyway, Brandon called to tell me that another relative showed up to court that day. He wanted to put forth a “family friend” to take custody of baby Weaver. This family member had never met baby Weaver nor had the “family friend” but according to CPS a family member will always take precedence over a non relative adoption.

Sh#t.

Excuse my language here but honestly that was the first word that came to mind. I can’t really describe it any other way.

Without getting into the details, that person clearly did not check out nor did the other family member I mentioned earlier but in all scenarios we went hours, days, weeks, honestly it wasn’t until last week (almost 10 months later you guys!!) that all of my fears were diminished of losing our son. If you have talked to me in the past ten months I probably told you “everything was good and that we weren’t worried”. Well, I’m sorry that I partially lied to you. Yes, everything was good. It is good. But with all of these surprises and unknown we were still really scared on what could have happened. As you may know, we received some really good news last week.

We (thank the good Lord) are in a position that we have been praying about. Thank you Jesus. But before I steer this blog post into another direction my point today is that life isn’t always as it seems on social media.

Some might ask “why would I even choose to post that day if I was really having a bad day?”. Well, because in most cases I signed a contract with a company agreeing that I would post my review that day. Clearly not knowing what life could throw at us that day.

Life is…truly like a box of chocolates 🙂

The comparison game is so real and I’ve heard people say that they stop following bloggers that they originally loved following because it started to make them feel bad about themselves. That breaks my heart but I totally get it. If you ever start to feel like that just try and remember that Instagram is just a highlight reel and that everyone has their own struggles even if it doesn’t seem like it because of a perfectly staged photo.

I know I’m struggling like everyday over here, haha. These are just 5 examples but trust me I could share like 100 more.

If you ever need a laugh or just want to vent I’m here girl, info@roselynweaver.com.

Love you all so, so much!

“Everyday may not be perfect but a perfect moment can be found in everyday.”

Dang..that was good. Did I just make that up?? 🙂

xo, Roselyn

Good Things Will Come

Good Things Will Come

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Outfit Details: Tee: Forever 21 | Denim Shorts: Free People | Sunglasses: Nordstrom | Wedges: Marc Fisher and similar here | Straw Bag: Francesca’s

Good morning my lovely friends 🙂

For the past week something has been really heavy on my heart and I was going to post this yesterday because it truly has to deal with this time of year but this year was a little different for me.

Mother’s Day.

Yesterday I was so overwhelmed by the love from my husband, my family, my friends and YOU GUYS for sending me “Happy First Mother’s Day” messages. Seriously, I cannot thank you enough for always being so uplifting and kind to me!! Mother’s Day is always such a special day for us to celebrate our Mom’s and all the mother figures in our lives but this year I felt extremely blessed to be able to be celebrated by my sweet little family.

As I have been anticipating this special Mother’s Day all week I couldn’t help but reflect on what I felt like last year. I want to share this with you because not until I opened up about our story did I find out how many of you guys went through or are going the same thing.

The last two Mother’s Day celebrations were probably the hardest. I felt so guilty for being sad because I was fortunate enough to have a wonderful mother myself and also two amazing sisters to celebrate that day! But the other 364 days of the year I was able to “hold it together” pretty well staying busy in my everyday activities. It seemed as though every around us was getting pregnant. Even friends that didn’t want kids were having kids and 2 friend’s of ours even made their baby announcement on Mother’s Day. Even though I was genuinely happy for them I couldn’t help but feel sad about our situation. I didn’t really talk about it in depth with anyone outside of Brandon because honestly I didn’t want anyone else to “feel bad” for us and I also didn’t want to take any happiness away from anyone else.

2016 was probably the hardest Mother’s Day of them all because we already knew our chances to conceive were going to be tough if at all possible. 2017, last year, was actually a lot better because we had already gone through the adoption process but we hadn’t gotten a call and my hopes of that becoming a reality started to wither away as well.

Fast forward to 2018 you guys. I got to celebrate in my first Mother’s Day. This post is on the more not-so-happy side than most of my blog posts, but what I want you to know is that

GOOD THINGS WILL COME

I feel your pain for you, my friends, who are suffering infertility. I know the sadness of you longing to be a mother because you deserve it more than anything. I know some of you who have lost a child. I know Mother’s Day is a celebratory day for the world but it’s okay for you to be sad because only you know what you are going through.

 I want you to know, from someone who has experienced some of that sadness, that you are not alone. It may seem like people are just having children without any of the struggles you are going through but I’m telling you right now that the amount of people that have reached out to me about their infertility struggles is overwhelming. You are not alone.

I was praying on my way to work this morning (that’s when I pray, haha) and I remember that before we got baby Weaver I’d always pray this “God, I pray that Brandon and I are able to conceive a child if that’s what is meant to be, if not please help us be patient and strong through this adoption process”. This morning I caught myself praying that He help me be the best mother for baby Weaver. Within two years I was praying for our sweet baby and it not until this morning I realized my prayers had switched to me praying that I would be the best mother to our son that God has blessed us with.

You won’t ever forget the sadness that you went through waiting for your sweet baby but I promise you you’ll forget how sad you were and how long you waited because when you are finally blessed with that sweet soul, it will be hard to remember anything else. I know that if you are going through the struggle right now that you hear that from people all the time and it gets annoying but again, I was there girl and I promise you Good Things Will Come

We don’t always understand God’s timing but I know it’s always the right time.

Good Things Will Come

xo, Roselyn

P.S. Adoption was always in our plan. It just happened sooner than we had planned. If you guys have been thinking about it yourselves or are curious and have questions, please always feel free to reach out to me. You can email me at hello@thestylelynnlife.com. You can also read more about our story here.