Our Adoption Story- The Beginning

It’s basically Friday today so hooray! 🙂

We have been getting a lot of questions about our adoption. Some general questions, some of the same questions and some very “I can’t believe you would ask a stranger a question like that” questions. lol I mean I get it. We all know what adoption is but we all don’t understand the process. Brandon and I had no clue about it until we were going through it ourselves. I am working on a more detailed post where I can provide you with information on how to go about starting the process yourself and things you may want to think about along the way but today I am sharing more of our personal story.

But first things first- this mama bear tee that I feel like I’ve been waiting my whole life to wear and these adorable and super comfy shoes that we all need but are especially perfect for you errand running mamas!

If I told you that it felt like I was walking on clouds in these sneakers that would be an understatement. They are so comfortable! I mean way more comfortable than my Adidas tennies that I used to wear all of the time. These have definitely replaced those! Plus they come in a bunch of different colors so you can get some to match all of your outfits! I wear mine with a no show sock so I got my regular size 7 and they fit perfectly. They are 50% lighter than your average sneaker, 100% Australian Merino wool and temperature regulating so you can run all those errands in comfort while staying stylish!

Also, I am wearing a small in this camo tee for reference.

Okay so the funny thing is that because I talked about the adoption process so much with our friends and  family I felt like everyone knew. Now, I realize that wasn’t the case so I just want to share some of the things we have been getting asked the past weeks.

Why did we decide to adopt? – You know, God has a funny way of working things out. 🙂 Before Brandon and I were married we actually always talked about wanting to adopt. I remember him saying that he had always thought about adopting a child and I was like “gasp! did we just become best friends?” lol but really, neither of us could wait to grow our family. Our plan was to conceive a child of our own and then once “we had it figured out” (do you ever have children figured out? haha) then we would try and adopt. Well 3 years later and we still hadn’t conceived but before you start getting sad over there I have to be honest with you and say yes of course it hurt a little when we found out that our chances to conceive were going to be tougher than it would be for the average couple but that moment didn’t last long. Again, Brandon and I always planned to adopt so really our timeline was just being switched up a little that’s all. We have so much faith and I believe everything is happening the way it’s supposed to. I promise you friends, I’m not sure we could be happier than we are right now.

Don’t you guys want to have your own children? – I can’t make this stuff up! People really ask you questions like this. I got a lot of this when I initially mentioned wanting to adopt. After the initial “I can’t believe she just asked me that” feeling my instant response was “yes, of course but we definitely want to adopt as well”.

If you asked me that today my response would be “we do have a child of our own”.

“Baby Weaver, we didn’t make you but there is no doubt that we were made for you.“

Wait? When did this happen? –  We started the paperwork in December 2016. We got certified in September 2017 and got our placement in November 2017.

Why didn’t you tell us? – We told our family, our friends, even people in conversation but we didn’t make this huge announcement because honestly we had no idea when it would actually happen.

How did it happen? – Well if you refer back to the “when did this happen?” it literally felt like we were waiting forever for that call but when we got the call I felt like it all happened so fast, haha. We got the phone call around 2pm in the afternoon. All we knew was age, ethnicity and gender. We said yes.  Baby Weaver was home that evening before 7pm. Between 2pm and 7pm Brandon and I cut out of work early, ran to Babies R Us and grabbed everything we thought we may possibly need. Needless to say we were at either Babies R Us or Target every day that week 🙂

During the paperwork process you actually specify what age range, gender, etc. you would prefer. We didn’t mind the gender and our age range was 0- 2years so we didn’t buy anything because we literally had no idea what age or gender we would be blessed with.

What happens now? – it is a process. Most times a long one. We pray to finalize as quickly as possible so that we can share this angel with the world but until then we will be patient, continue to enjoy every moment and respect the legality of it all.

How is baby doing? – Baby is just absolutely perfect. Like how did we get so lucky?! Baby is so perfect that I almost want to say yes to another like today, haha!

How are you guys doing? Well if you would have asked me between 2pm and 7pm that day my answer would have been, “scared”. I’m sure as a new mom ready to give birth to their first child, women ask themselves “am I ready to be a Mom?” but I was scared in a different way. Would I be enough for this sweet baby that could no longer be with his biological Mom? Could I show this child enough love that I could make up for any emotional pain he or she has gone through? Would I be enough? Could I be enough?

Our lives changed forever that day. After the first initial hours of overwhelming joy and fear I finally sat down to soak it all in. I couldn’t believe the time had finally come for Brandon and I…

We have never been better. Our hearts are bursting with joy and there are so many moments in the day that my heart feels like it is going to jump out of my chest because it’s so happy.

xo, Roselyn aka mama bear 🙂

Photos by Banavenue Photography