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We Don’t Build Ourselves Up By Putting Others Down


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“We don’t build ourselves up by putting others down”.

This is probably a quote that you have seen or heard a lot but even though I’ve seen and heard it quite a bit, I still see people doing the opposite far too much.

As we are all setting our goals for the new year let’s remember to stay focused on our own strengths and what we bring to the table as oppose to what we see as weaknesses of others. I work in the corporate world and I’ve been in it for many years. I am also now in the enterprenioal world as a blogger.

No matter what stage you are at in your career, to succeed we must work hard, be honest, be humble and most of all be a team player.

Focus on your strengths, not your competitor’s weaknesses

Sell what you have done, not what your competition didn’t do

Talk about what you can do, not what your competitor won’t do

Last year, around this time I was very fortunate to have been promoted to a management position at my company. Last year, around this time I was in my third campaign with my all time favorite retailer, Nordstrom. Naturally, I was ecstatic about both but you know what makes me even more proud about these life changing moments?…The fact that my hard work was paying off and that I didn’t have to bring anyone down to achieve these goals.

I share a lot of my blogger pals on here and my social media. These are the ones that build each other up. I talk about how the blogging community has been amazing because that’s how I choose to keep my community. There is A LOT of competiveness and some gals can be catty but I don’t talk about that because I feel like that’s not the blogging community I choose to be a part of. I am part of the community that is positive, inspirational and laughs about the ridiculousness and moves on.

If you are in an interview or on a conference call trying to land a big campaign, remember this, “referencing someone else’s weaknesses will never make you look better”.

I say all of this because a lot of you gals have been asking for blogging tips and I will be sharing them for the weeks to come but no matter where you are in your blogging career these tips are the most important. Also, I know I have a lot of corporate gal readers who are starting off in your careers. Remember those 3 tips highlighted above. Those along with your hard work and ability to be a team player will get you exactly where you want to be.

xo, Roselyn

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2 thoughts on “We Don’t Build Ourselves Up By Putting Others Down

  1. Hi Roselyn, congrats on the blog, and this post specially touched me. I totally agree with the post ,and abide by this rule in general by supporting my friends, and supporting woman, and so now I decided to writte in your post to support…YOU. Thanks for the great message, as I do believe, together we blossom girls, together we are stronger!. xxxx

    1. Thank you so so much for your comment! It truly means a lot that you took the time to read my post and I’m so glad that you enjoyed it! #womensupportingwomen


Hi! I'm Roselyn Weaver and I'm so happy you are here! I am a wife and mama of two living with with my family in Houston, TX. Here, I hope I can help you find inspiration for your everyday life and style.