We Don’t Build Ourselves Up By Putting Others Down

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“We don’t build ourselves up by putting others down”.

This is probably a quote that you have seen or heard a lot but even though I’ve seen and heard it quite a bit, I still see people doing the opposite far too much.

As we are all setting our goals for the new year let’s remember to stay focused on our own strengths and what we bring to the table as oppose to what we see as weaknesses of others. I work in the corporate world and I’ve been in it for many years. I am also now in the enterprenioal world as a blogger.

No matter what stage you are at in your career, to succeed we must work hard, be honest, be humble and most of all be a team player.

Focus on your strengths, not your competitor’s weaknesses

Sell what you have done, not what your competition didn’t do

Talk about what you can do, not what your competitor won’t do

Last year, around this time I was very fortunate to have been promoted to a management position at my company. Last year, around this time I was in my third campaign with my all time favorite retailer, Nordstrom. Naturally, I was ecstatic about both but you know what makes me even more proud about these life changing moments?…The fact that my hard work was paying off and that I didn’t have to bring anyone down to achieve these goals.

I share a lot of my blogger pals on here and my social media. These are the ones that build each other up. I talk about how the blogging community has been amazing because that’s how I choose to keep my community. There is A LOT of competiveness and some gals can be catty but I don’t talk about that because I feel like that’s not the blogging community I choose to be a part of. I am part of the community that is positive, inspirational and laughs about the ridiculousness and moves on.

If you are in an interview or on a conference call trying to land a big campaign, remember this, “referencing someone else’s weaknesses will never make you look better”.

I say all of this because a lot of you gals have been asking for blogging tips and I will be sharing them for the weeks to come but no matter where you are in your blogging career these tips are the most important. Also, I know I have a lot of corporate gal readers who are starting off in your careers. Remember those 3 tips highlighted above. Those along with your hard work and ability to be a team player will get you exactly where you want to be.

xo, Roselyn

Photos by Banavenue Photography

The Best of 2016

Can you guys believe it is the last Friday in 2016?! Holy moly this year flew by! I am especially thankful for each and everyone of you for being so amazing, supportive and always bringing the positive vibes. I started this blog as an outlet for me, but you all are the reason it continues to grow! Giving you all the biggest virtual hug right now! You all are seriously the best!

Sharing the most read/top 10 blog posts from 2016!

2nd Year Wedding Anniversary Gifts Ideas– I wrote about what I gave Brandon for the year of cotton along with some other fun ideas! 2017 is the year of leather for us. Oh yea! This girl needs a new bag. 🙂

Celebrate the Hustle– This one may have been my all time favorite to write. My ultimate life rules to continue your success and enjoy every minute of it.

Pros and Cons of Having Your Husband As A Photographer– All in all, he’s still my favorite photographer.

Jumpsuits for Fall– Almost crying thinking about the first contract I signed with my favorite retailer of all time. Thank YOU guys for the continued support. Again, YOU guys help me grow this blog of mine!

Trendlee: Luxury Handbags At A Fraction of The Cost–  Just the best site ever invented.

Why You Should Travel With Friends– A fun recap of our Belize trip along with top reasons you should travel with friends!

The Style Lynn Travels: Dublin, Ireland– Thank you guys for all the support on our travel posts! I will continue recapping our October Europe trip in January! So far I’ve been able to share Ireland, Northern Ireland and Scotland. Still to come Amsterdam, London, Brussels, Paris and the British Isles.

Fall Florals + Filipino Fun Facts– I love that you guys loved this post! Or was that all my aunties and uncles who read this one?…Either way THANK YOU! 🙂

Gifts They’ll Love + Guaranteed To Fit– This is such a great one to pin and save for future gift ideas!

Cold Shoulder Sweaters + Denim Shorts– Who doesn’t love a full outfit under $100?! You know I do! 🙂 This post is also a good read for affordable shopping!

I can’t thank you all enough for EVERYTHING! The comments, the likes, the messages, the support, the clicks, the views and THE TIME you take to do these things when you can. Thank you for sharing with your friends and thank you for always reminding me that you are there!

Seriously, YOU ALL ARE THE BEST!

Cheers to such an amazing 2016 with you and cheers to an even better 2017!

xo, Roselyn

 

10 Quotes That Get Me Through Life

NUMBER ONE: THE GOLDEN RULE

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

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NUMBER TWO: “If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way”

I’m just little ole me and though I wish I had millions of dollars and magic powers to change the world for how I believe God intended I don’t have either of those things so I just truly try to live my everyday showing everyone I cross paths with positivity, love and true sincerity. If I could leave a complete stranger thinking “wow, there are still good people out there” then my job for the day is done.

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NUMBER THREE: “True forgiveness is when you can say, thank you for that experience”

OMG, I couldn’t agree with this one more. I know the saying “forgive and forget” but let’s be honest when some major falling out happens in your life it is not easily forgotten. Especially by the ones who were hurt along the away. The day you come to a realization of something and can say what you learned from it and thank someone for showing you that experience is definitely true forgiveness. So I say thank you ex boyfriend LOL.

NUMBER FOUR: “Some pursue happiness, others create it” – Author Unknown

Have you ever encountered an individual that has their mind so set on pursuing the perfect “happiness” that they are too stressed out to realize the simplicity of creating it? This may sound silly to some, but creating the little pieces of happiness each day is what creates the most greatest feeling of all. Being happy everyday is true happiness. Trust me I’m not happy all day everyday, but finding happiness in each day will really change your life.

NUMBER FIVE: “The man who has done his best has done everything”- Charles M. Schwab

All we can do is our best. But ensure that what you are giving, is in fact your best.

NUMBER SIX: “You get what you give” -?

Is that an official quote from someone? LOL. I just googled it and all sorts of different things came up. Anyway, I had an instructor tell me and a class full of bright eyed students that once and it really stuck. Especially now as a blogger whose dream is to be able to do this full time. I am doing my best to give my all to this which means putting full time hours into blogging as well as putting full time hours into my corporate job. Sometimes that means kissing my husband good night at 11pm and working a couple more hours before I call it a night.

NUMBER SEVEN: “Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great” -John Rockefeller

Basically, don’t settle. Good is good, but great is GREAT! We may get comfortable in a state that we are at which is totally fine, but if you want more don’t be afraid to go for it. What’s the worst thing that can happen? You go back to good?

NUMBER EIGHT: “It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan” -Eleanor Roosevelt

Truth. Make a list of steps you need to take to accomplish whatever you are wishing for. I promise you’ll get there much faster 😉

NUMBER NINE: “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” -Arthur Ashe

Now that’s deep. Sometimes when I think about all of the things I want to accomplish in the future it’s easy to think “ugh, if only I had this or if only I can do this I could make it happen so much quicker.” I have to remember, baby steps. I need to start with where I am today and once I remember that I realize what I can do is a lot and what I have is much more than I even knew.

NUMBER TEN: “Ask and it will be given to you; search, and you will find; knock and the door will be opened for you.” – Jesus

Ummm, enough said. Pray. It really works.

Okay, enough of my Life Coach in training post LOL. I actually have many more that I like to remind myself of on the daily, but I figured most people may stop reading at 10! I just really wanted to share these with you because we all have a choice of how we choose to react to every situation. Life isn’t perfect and when we want great things we must go through obstacles to get there. I’m not just talking about career wise, but life in general. Unfortunately, it isn’t all rainbows and sunshine, but if we keep a positive outlook it is all achievable I promise you. You may see that I often hashtag #liveauthentically and #goodvibesonly in my social media because truly that’s what I want to surround our lives with. Surrounding yourselves with people who define these 2 things will really make EVERYTHING in life seem so much easier. 🙂

P.S. I bought both of these tees in store at Marshalls. Unfortunately, I cannot find the exact ones online, but I have linked up similar graphic styles below.

Good Vibes Only Top: Here, here, here and here

Love Is The New Black Top: Here and here

Thank you so much again for stopping and taking the time to read my jibber jabber 🙂 I appreciate you!

Wishing you all a wonderful week! Let me know if you have to refer back to one of these quotes! 🙂

xo, Roselyn